Showing posts with label lifestyle. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lifestyle. Show all posts
How I Realized I Am a Lesbian
Thursday, August 18, 2011
How I Realized I Am a Lesbian
I was heartbroken at the time because of a girl, even then i didn’t know i was a lesbian but I promised myself not to let myself love again. but one day, I met this girl online, she was a friend of a friend, and the first time i talked with her, I fell in love with her at that moment and I remember telling myself “No, you promised yourself.” but i couldn’t stop myself, she was too amazing. She’s 5 years older than me, and months after talking with her , she casually started talking about her fiancee. I turned red when i saw the word “fiancee” but even then i didnt know I was a lesbian (Pretty stupid, huh?) I didn’t know i was because she felt exactly the same way i did, I know it. She told me she loved me all the time and even once she said “im pretty sure i’m in love with you”. but jokingly.
a year and a half later of talking every night, to her mind we were like sisters. to my mind, i was madly in love with her. a year and half later, it was time for her wedding.
I was crushed the day of her wedding. okay i was happy for her, how could you not, you want the person you love to be happy. I stared crying everyday on my pillow for months, all i thought about was her, before i go to sleep, when i wake up. she however, went on with her life, she rarely talked with me and she seemed fine with it.
Months after crying on my pillow and having headaches of thinking about her too much it hit me, why do i care about her so much? because i’m in love with her and i am a lesbian. I was 16 when i realized it.
Confused..Why am i falling for her?
Confused..Why am i falling for her?
This is the most complicated and hurtful situation i have ever been in.. I found out about a month ago that my girlfriend of 5 years has been cheating and lying our whole relationship. shes been secretly still seeing her ex gf. This all came to light through a text i got, i have no idea who it is. they were telling me about her cheating ways. Even gave me the gf number so i could find out for myself. I confronted my gf and she denied denied and denied some more. So I called the number, the ex answered and i probed for answers but i got nothing. She would not talk.
I love my gf so much ,i want to believe her so bad..my guts telling me she lying and i cant get her to tell me truth. Needless to say we have been in constant arguments where she continues to deny it. A few days ago i got a text, this time from her ex. She finally wanted to talk. We talked now i know the truth. I been so blind, im so upset and hurt. This is where it’s gets really confusing. i dont even know anymore. I think im crazy.. ok so I talk to the ex, very calm adult conversations. We continue to text and we agree to meet up to talk. We meet up at a local bar. I was so nervous!!! and then the weirdest thing happen, we had conversations and drinks.. we both cried and she told me that even thou she knew about me, that my gf would not tell her anything about our relationship. That in fact when she wouldn’t even speak about me, and when she did it would be something negative. She said she felt just as betrayed and was very hurt. So thats why she decided to contact me.
We leave the bar and we go our separate ways…And now i cant stop thinking about this women. I like her, am i crazy? why am i feeling this way??? I text her again that night when i got home saying thank you for talking to me and that i wanted to see her again.She said yes! so i went to bed tossed and turned all night. We text each other in the morning. Asking how we are. and then i get a text from her that reads: this is going to sound weird and may not be appropriate but i felt a connection to u, and i like u..i know im sorry i had to tell u. i understand if this is too weird for u. I replied and said i felt same…so yes we did go out again, and it was great. i had such a good time. we just hung out beach side drinking and talking. as the night grew old and a few drinks we kissed…and it felt unreal!!!! i really like this women! whats wrong with me??? Has anyone ever gone through this??????
My Lesbian Life
My Lesbian Life
When I was a child, about 6, we used to have neighborhood “weddings” on the steps of the Baptist Church on our street. The girls wore their mothers’ lace curtains as veils. I, however, was ALWAYS the priest. Pretty weird, considering I was a Catholic kid and never even knew a “Protestant”.
I kissed a girl when I was 11, I kissed a boy a few months later. Oh yea, there WAS a difference! I never turned back. Yes, I dated a guy in High School, just so I could hang out with my friends.
I went to Nursing School and never lost that feeling that I had a religious vocation. I was on a Retreat with a Religious Order I was considering, and there she was! She was playing a guitar with some of the Sisters. She was shy, sweet and stole my heart. We both became Nuns, became close friends, neither knowing we were falling in love, too afraid to talk about it. I didn’t even know if she was a Lesbian. After 3 years I left the Community, She stayed. We kept in touch for 8 years, We both decided we needed to get on with our lives, without each other. I knew she wold never leave the Community and I needed to settle down. For 5 yrs we had no contact. She thought I fell off the face of the earth. The last time I saw her she lived in Buffalo, I was in Boston. 1 day, by chance, we saw each other. She fell into my arms. We finally talked about our love and planned to spend our lives together.
We met 39 years ago, and have been living together 25 yrs now.
By the way, I never lost my Religious call, and am now an Episcopal Priest!
Cyber Bullying-step it before it steps on your child!
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Cyber Bullying-step it before it steps on your child!
For those of you not familiar with the menace of cyber bullying, its equivalent to having your kid being bullied in school, but with the difference being that in cyber bullying, technology is basically the medium through which teens are bullied. Cybercrime is an offense which is on the rise in Pakistan with a proper cybercrime law and act in the function now. Cyber bullying is the equivalent of school bullying for kids and teens. It is a growing problem which most parents are unaware of.
The parents of teens who use technology such as mobiles, internet or wireless are mostly unaware of the threats posed by this technology, resulting in cyber crimes. Harassment via blogs, text messages, e-mails, instant messaging; are all forms of cyber bullying. The retribution that most teens have towardscyber bullying is that they start indulging in this crime too, hence not putting a stop to it.
In Pakistan, there is no such concept of cyber care. Teens and kids are mostly led astray by the bling of the cyber world that completely allures them and manages to lure the impressionable minds into its charm. Parents need to ascertain cyber care in Pakistan to ensure a safe and user friendly utilization of the technology to their teens. Cyber care for kidscan only be determined if the parents try being an active part of their teen’s life and keeping a tab on their kid’s cyber activities; not intruding upon their privacy but keeping a slight check.
Cyber crime includes all kinds of unlawful activities such as forgery, plagiarism, email spoofing, online gambling, cyber stalking, cyber defamation, web jacking etc. In Pakistan, cyber crimes such as pornography, virus attacks, online gambling, sales of illegal articles etc are often reported and are continuously on the rise. In Pakistan, cyber care needs to be implemented, none other by parents of the teens themselves, in order to give a more secure and protected environment to their kids.
Cyber bullying can lead to some emotional scars running very deep in your kid. You might want to step up and take action now…before your teen is subjected to any maltreatment and bullying.
For those of you not familiar with the menace of cyber bullying, its equivalent to having your kid being bullied in school, but with the difference being that in cyber bullying, technology is basically the medium through which teens are bullied. Cybercrime is an offense which is on the rise in Pakistan with a proper cybercrime law and act in the function now. Cyber bullying is the equivalent of school bullying for kids and teens. It is a growing problem which most parents are unaware of.The parents of teens who use technology such as mobiles, internet or wireless are mostly unaware of the threats posed by this technology, resulting in cyber crimes. Harassment via blogs, text messages, e-mails, instant messaging; are all forms of cyber bullying. The retribution that most teens have towardscyber bullying is that they start indulging in this crime too, hence not putting a stop to it.
In Pakistan, there is no such concept of cyber care. Teens and kids are mostly led astray by the bling of the cyber world that completely allures them and manages to lure the impressionable minds into its charm. Parents need to ascertain cyber care in Pakistan to ensure a safe and user friendly utilization of the technology to their teens. Cyber care for kidscan only be determined if the parents try being an active part of their teen’s life and keeping a tab on their kid’s cyber activities; not intruding upon their privacy but keeping a slight check.
Cyber crime includes all kinds of unlawful activities such as forgery, plagiarism, email spoofing, online gambling, cyber stalking, cyber defamation, web jacking etc. In Pakistan, cyber crimes such as pornography, virus attacks, online gambling, sales of illegal articles etc are often reported and are continuously on the rise. In Pakistan, cyber care needs to be implemented, none other by parents of the teens themselves, in order to give a more secure and protected environment to their kids.
Cyber bullying can lead to some emotional scars running very deep in your kid. You might want to step up and take action now…before your teen is subjected to any maltreatment and bullying.
Simple yet Important Teeth Care Tips
Simple yet Important Teeth Care Tips
Teeth care is not only important from health point of view but it imparts a completely new appeal to your personality. Good teeth and gums are a sign of good health. Therefore, here are a few simple yet importantteeth care tips for everyone to follow every day.
Firstly and most importantly in teeth care it is essential to brush your teeth twice a day. It is a sin in teeth careto sleep without brushing your teeth because you are actually opening a door for the bacteria and germs to attack your teeth in very possible way. Brush your tongue and teeth well and if you are not familiar with the right way of doing tooth brush then ask your dentist to demonstrate it to you.
Brush at least for five minutes and move gently. Teeth care does not mean at all that you deal with your teeth with a hard toothbrush or strongly brush your teeth, rather, remain steady and gentle when cleaning your teeth.
There are many parts of the teeth where good teeth care cannot take place by just doing toothbrush. You need to use the dental floss or the inter-dental brush to clean the areas between the teeth. Therefore, do this at least once after every two days if you are lazy to do it every day.
Tongue scraper is an excellent tool for teeth care. It restricts plaque on your teeth and protects you from a smelly oral cavity.
Making a right choice about foods that you eat is essential for teeth care. Eating fresh carrots and other vegetables is ideal for your teeth while, snacking all the time is very bad. Moreover, try to eat different dairy products like cheese because due to their alkaline nature they neutralize the affect of acidity created by other food items which could otherwise cause problems for teeth care.
Most importantly, visit your dentist after every six months and do not be lazy about it at all. Being an educated person, educate yourself about the latest information on teeth care and discuss different stuff regarding teeth care with your doctor. If there is any problem with your ongoing teeth care tactics then correct it as soon as possible.
Therefore, just by following these few simple steps of teeth care, enjoy a long-lasting and beautiful smile with perfect teeth and love yourself too.
Teeth care is not only important from health point of view but it imparts a completely new appeal to your personality. Good teeth and gums are a sign of good health. Therefore, here are a few simple yet importantteeth care tips for everyone to follow every day.
Firstly and most importantly in teeth care it is essential to brush your teeth twice a day. It is a sin in teeth careto sleep without brushing your teeth because you are actually opening a door for the bacteria and germs to attack your teeth in very possible way. Brush your tongue and teeth well and if you are not familiar with the right way of doing tooth brush then ask your dentist to demonstrate it to you.
Brush at least for five minutes and move gently. Teeth care does not mean at all that you deal with your teeth with a hard toothbrush or strongly brush your teeth, rather, remain steady and gentle when cleaning your teeth.
There are many parts of the teeth where good teeth care cannot take place by just doing toothbrush. You need to use the dental floss or the inter-dental brush to clean the areas between the teeth. Therefore, do this at least once after every two days if you are lazy to do it every day.
Tongue scraper is an excellent tool for teeth care. It restricts plaque on your teeth and protects you from a smelly oral cavity.
Making a right choice about foods that you eat is essential for teeth care. Eating fresh carrots and other vegetables is ideal for your teeth while, snacking all the time is very bad. Moreover, try to eat different dairy products like cheese because due to their alkaline nature they neutralize the affect of acidity created by other food items which could otherwise cause problems for teeth care.
Most importantly, visit your dentist after every six months and do not be lazy about it at all. Being an educated person, educate yourself about the latest information on teeth care and discuss different stuff regarding teeth care with your doctor. If there is any problem with your ongoing teeth care tactics then correct it as soon as possible.
Therefore, just by following these few simple steps of teeth care, enjoy a long-lasting and beautiful smile with perfect teeth and love yourself too.
Acquainting kids with Ramadan
Acquainting kids with Ramadan
This holy and sacred month of Ramadan affects the life of Muslims all across the world. Ramadan is full of blessings, hence every Muslim try to take benefit of it in order to adorn their after life with good deeds. In today’s busy life, Ramadan for kids stands as a pleasant reminder of Muslim traditions. Importance of Ramadan for kids is not only based on religious reasons but also because it brings a pleasant change in their social life. It gives them a chance to meet up and eat together with their friends and extended family following the Muslim mode of life.
It is very necessary for the parents to acquaint their kids with the real essence of blessed Ramadan and to teach the importance of Ramadan for kids. InRamadan for kids whole charm lies in waking up in the middle of night to eat sehri and then a large variety of delicious dishes to eat in the evening for aftari. The responsibility falls on elders to make kids aware of the purpose of fasting. Ramadan for kids means whole family sitting together and eating a large variety of dishes. Kids have a very inquisitive mind which is filled with several questions regarding fasting. Parents must address those questions first then make them observe fast. It is not correct to enforce fasting on them but prepare them psychologically so that when they reach to age of 12, which according to Islam is the right age of fasting, they realize the importance of Ramadan and observe fasting willfully not forcefully.
Fasting gives them a feeling of being grown up. They proudly share with their friends and cousins that how many fasts they observed in the month of Ramadan. Ramadan for kids is also like a competition with their siblings or friends. Making their favorite dishes for aftari serves as a token of encouragement and appraisal as well. In the month of Ramadan, inviting their friends for aftari is also an endeavor that would encourage them. In Ramadan, parents or grand parents should keep telling small religious stories to kids so that they get to know teachings of Islam. Reciting Quran-e-Kareem and going to mosque for Tarawee with their elders also teach them about Islamic teachings.
Finally Eid-ul-Fitr is the biggest reward of all for Muslims. Kids also wait for Eid and observe fast in order to get more eidi and new clothes. Kids get attracted very easily. It is the responsibility of elders to tell them about Islamic teachings through reward system as it is the exactly same way which Allah has chosen to make us choose the right path. Parents can make Ramadan for kids’ pleasantly spiritual experience.
This holy and sacred month of Ramadan affects the life of Muslims all across the world. Ramadan is full of blessings, hence every Muslim try to take benefit of it in order to adorn their after life with good deeds. In today’s busy life, Ramadan for kids stands as a pleasant reminder of Muslim traditions. Importance of Ramadan for kids is not only based on religious reasons but also because it brings a pleasant change in their social life. It gives them a chance to meet up and eat together with their friends and extended family following the Muslim mode of life.
It is very necessary for the parents to acquaint their kids with the real essence of blessed Ramadan and to teach the importance of Ramadan for kids. InRamadan for kids whole charm lies in waking up in the middle of night to eat sehri and then a large variety of delicious dishes to eat in the evening for aftari. The responsibility falls on elders to make kids aware of the purpose of fasting. Ramadan for kids means whole family sitting together and eating a large variety of dishes. Kids have a very inquisitive mind which is filled with several questions regarding fasting. Parents must address those questions first then make them observe fast. It is not correct to enforce fasting on them but prepare them psychologically so that when they reach to age of 12, which according to Islam is the right age of fasting, they realize the importance of Ramadan and observe fasting willfully not forcefully.
Fasting gives them a feeling of being grown up. They proudly share with their friends and cousins that how many fasts they observed in the month of Ramadan. Ramadan for kids is also like a competition with their siblings or friends. Making their favorite dishes for aftari serves as a token of encouragement and appraisal as well. In the month of Ramadan, inviting their friends for aftari is also an endeavor that would encourage them. In Ramadan, parents or grand parents should keep telling small religious stories to kids so that they get to know teachings of Islam. Reciting Quran-e-Kareem and going to mosque for Tarawee with their elders also teach them about Islamic teachings.
Finally Eid-ul-Fitr is the biggest reward of all for Muslims. Kids also wait for Eid and observe fast in order to get more eidi and new clothes. Kids get attracted very easily. It is the responsibility of elders to tell them about Islamic teachings through reward system as it is the exactly same way which Allah has chosen to make us choose the right path. Parents can make Ramadan for kids’ pleasantly spiritual experience.
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